Ever notice how indecisive people are rarely satisfied?
They spend their time going over the possibilities that would occur if they went one way, and all the other possibilities that would be there if they went the other way. But when I say possibilities, what I really mean is that indecisive people often focus on all the things that could go wrong, or what they could miss out on if they went one way, and not the other way.
What they fail to acknowledge is that life is a series of choices, and that it’s impossible to have it all.
So before I tell you about the more formal volunteering I’d like to do, I did get to help out an undergraduate and law school student this month. I formally mentor a first year law student and I also informally took under my wing a smart undergrad former Navy lady!
It’s been super fun hearing where these “kids” want to end up and the thoughts going through their minds as they search for who they’re meant to become. I know I had a similar path and really needed a helping hand and kind ear to listen to my aspirations. So far, I’ve really enjoyed connecting these bright ladies with people that can help them even more, and just sharing my own story on the path to finding where I’m meant to be!
Happy 2016, everyone! We’re two months in, and it feels like this year is already moving right along.
I know I haven’t shared in a very long time, and I have been realizing more and more that I really miss this outlet to share and introspect about what is going on in my life (and the greater world).
Let me just say that life is wonderful! I moved out of a fairly horrible living situation, with an amazing living opportunity thrown into my lap completely unexpectedly. I’ve reconnected with good friends in the area, traveled to big cities for all of my holidays, and just had a wonderful time growing up and being content with who am I am and what I’ve become.
As I am nearing the corner of turning 30 in a few years, I’ve noticed that I am significantly more at peace. I’m more confident in my body, even though I was much skinnier in my most insecure years. I’m calmer, even though my responsibilities have grown. I’m happier, even though I’ve seen true cruelty, encountered monsters, and had my share of debt.
Note: This post is a continuation of Monday’s post about roommates!
The Perfect Roommate
In terms of roommates, I’ve lived with the elusive PERFECT roommate (alas, I got the dream job, and had to move away from the city we shared, and had to live with complete strangers, who indeed are not perfect).
Ever since I’ve moved out from my parents’ house to go to college at the ripe age of sixteen, I’ve lived with roommates.
As an introvert who needs space from people, a mini-OCD freak who likes to live in an orderly fashion, a wannabe chef who cleans as she goes and never leaves dirty dishes in the sink, and early bird who goes to bed early, I’ve always made sure that I lived with people to learn to adapt, work on compromising and generally not turn into a nutcase who talks to herself because she’s alone all the time.
Anyways, what books are you reading this summer? I’m reading Americanah by Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie. If you haven’t read it yet, I really encourage you to! It’s very well-written, funny without trying and very insightful.
As an immigrant, I’ve never really been able to put into words some of the confusing things I’ve noticed about the Americans, let alone my own culture. Or maybe I just never sat down to think about these things because I was too busy adapting and trying to hide my roots while being a good little American girl, just as I was busy hiding my “American” accent while talking to my fellow kinsmen and pretending I hadn’t Americanized the pronunciation of my last name.
Hello again! Hope you’ve all been enjoying your spring! I hope you forgive my absence. It’s funny… when things are going really well in all spheres of your life, you sometimes enjoy living to the fullest a teensy bit too much, and forget some of your obligations. But I’m back, attempting to be back on a more regular basis again!
I recently heard about a priorities matrix that can shine some light on the reason why I’ve been absent yet again. The matrix puts Urgent vs. Important in two separate grids and reminded me that I sometimes struggle with always doing things that are urgent (things that I feel like I have to do right away), concentrating on things that might seem pressing in the moment, but that generally do not lead me to focus on the big picture, the important, that is the true goals I have for my life. And so, I keep putting out seemingly urgent fires and by the time I’ve put them all out, I find that I have no energy left for the truly important things.
Technology is great, right? We can connect to anyone across the globe. We can deliver presents to our friends in Thailand, Russia, or Costa Rica, regardless of whether we speak the language. We can Skype from the remote island we visit on our honeymoon or for a vacation. We can share our innermost thoughts and feelings with the world through our blogs. It’s pretty incredible.
And yet, when technology fails, it fails big. When Apple did something wonky in January, we all felt it. From thousands of undelivered text messages, to people losing ALL OF THEIR PHOTOS, many of us wondered if we should just move back to the cave we came from and hurl our iPhone through a window.